Accidental Saints: WISDOM 1

I am currently reading Accidental Saints by Pastor Nadia Bolz-Weber and I can’t seem to get enough of it. What I found to be helpful for people who are not spiritual was how and when is her spirituality most active. She writes: My spirituality is most active, not in meditation, but in the moments when: […]

I Am Often Not Interested In The Historical Evidence of the Bible.

The common thing is that we want proof, evidence. We basically want certainty. Anne Lamott says that the opposite of faith isn’t doubt, but certainty. She says that certainty is completely losing the point. This basically means; certainty makes faith irrelevant. You know, so why are you believing and hoping? Whenever I say to friends, […]

Our Mothers Are Not Incompetent. “Happy Father’s Day to My Mom”

I found this year’s father’s day to be cold and empty. I went through social media trying to find sweet and cute pictures of fathers and their kids, and I found so few of them. I wondered: Is it because fathers never take responsibility, or is it because kids do not appreciate them? I found […]

Petition Against Shame.

I ran out of sleep yesterday at 3 am. This is what happens to people like with the mind that works overtime. Beyond the trouble of my existence, there is another one… my mind. At 3 am it says “Hey. Wake up! Let’s recap on your shitty life, especially those moments where you were embarrassed, […]

Freedom – Female Sexuality.

Female sexuality has always been a very tough thing to talk about. It is something that has always been regulated, shamed and negatively socialized. I had two conversations that made me think about this. One with a woman, the other one with a man. The conversation with a woman was about how ordinary women who […]

The Three Staged Questions.

I often say there are three staged questions, starting off by, “When are you graduating?” followed by, “When are you getting married?” then ending of by, “When are you having the kids?” These are the questions that often govern our lives. They are used to measure the level of respect we should be given. I […]

“…you’ll realize you’re okay.”

Hey Loves, I thought I should share some words of hope. Hope is the cousin of grief, that’s what Anne Lamott says. One of the greatest thing about hope is that we know that it’s all we need. We keep reminding ourselves that light will shine again, even if it’s only 1% of your thoughts […]

We Are The Woman And We Are The Ones Holding The Stones.

I am forever reminded of the story of a woman whom Jesus had an impact on. A woman who had had five men already, and still was not satisfied. A woman who had to bear the shame of her past. A woman who had to live with her deepest longing not met. We are all […]

Gay People Are An Abomination?

I’ve always expected the church to be a healing place. Unfortunately, this hasn’t been the case for so many people. If anything, church has stripped the humanity and dignity people have. The very notion that gay people are an abomination communicates a very harmful message to the community. I do not believe that this is […]

The Dehumanization Of Gay People.

The dehumanization of gay people, especially in black communities, is appalling. The word “Istabane” or “faggot” used toward gay people has an underlying message that carries the same weight the word white people used, during apartheid (and still use) toward black people, “kaffir” This is a pure and raw dehumanization. This says: You do not […]